As a bride-to-be, I was always searching for that one thing former brides dubbed as a “must do.” One friend said the highlight of her wedding night was standing in a corner with her new husband, admiring all of their favorite people having the time of their lives. I loved this idea. Another left handwritten cards on her family members’ pillows — with the craziness of the weekend, she wanted each of them to feel personally thanked and welcomed. I loved this too. A third said to be mindful of drink intake at the rehearsal dinner (she ended up with an IV on her wedding morning). I appreciated this as well, but I’m afraid I didn’t see it through. LiquidIV, Pedialyte, and mimosas was an interesting trio morning of my wedding. Oops. While I quickly learned that there was no shared answer across brides, I received so many wonderful recommendations and incorporated them into our day and weekend as best I could.
Above all, there was one recommendation I seriously took to heart, and that was to focus on celebrating my friends/family and celebrating them well. This came from my Mom (of course – queen of everything), who told me to make time in the chaos for moments of intimate conversation and genuine laughter. This was my goal in planning a high tea at the Swan Coach House — a celebration of the women in my life, an opportunity to be fully present and personally thank each of them for the impact they’ve had on my life.
My dress is a custom Ema Savahl (I miraculously found it on Poshmark after falling in love with a beautiful blue version in store!) — linking several options for brides!
This is my #1 recommendation to my bride-to-be friends — whether it’s a tea or a casual breakfast before the craziness of the weekend ensues, schedule something! Host it yourself, and don’t worry about archaic etiquette that says you shouldn’t. Put thought into the words you’ll say, the gifts you’ll give (or not – but gift giving is my love language so this was a must for me!), and think through how you’ll be fully present despite the anxiety/excitement/stress you’ll feel going into your big weekend.
It’s so rare to have all of your “people” (that sounds so cliche, but the ones are TRULY responsible for a piece of your soul) in one place, and I’m so thankful I followed my Mom’s advice and took advantage of this special moment.
I’m so grateful for Paige Knudsen who captured all of the laughter and tears from a morning I’ll remember for the rest of my days. I highly, highly recommend her and her incredible talent!
Cheers to spending time with those we love the very most.